Well, if you are anything like me, then meeting new people is not your favorite thing in the world. I love being able to collaborate with wedding vendors and meet new clients and other industry and creative professionals. But, when I’m not behind my camera or immersed in my business as a photographer, I get sooooo stressed about meeting new people!
We just moved to Oregon and before this move, I had lived in Idaho for about 15 years. I haven’t had to really make new friends since high school and now my family is hundreds of miles away. So, I’ve had to put myself out there and really meet new people and try to develop some sort of connection. Which is super scary for me. I’m not outgoing (unless I’m behind my camera) and talking to strangers terrifies me.
But, I strongly believe that connections are so important. I know we were meant to be happy and even though I’m an introvert, I still need to feel like I belong. And the only way to do that in a new place is to connect with people! So, here’s a few of the things I’ve done to handle meeting new people and being in large groups!
~1~ Don’t overbook yourself ~ If you know you have an event or are meeting up with a new friend, don’t plan anything else that day! Introverts usually unwind by being by themselves or doing something calming. So you’ll want to make sure that after meeting up you can just go home and relax! Sit with your feet up, read a book, take a bath, binge watch a show on netflix, whatever it is that allows you to re-charge. This also gives you time to process and think about whatever it is you need to. This is especially important if you’re meeting with a big group or learning something new!
~2~ Be confident and self-assured ~ Oh my goodness, I never thought I had an issue with this until we moved. But man have I questioned SO many things since I’ve had to make new friends from scratch! But comparison is never good especially if you’re constantly worried about what other people will think! My motto is to just be kind and everything will work out! Remember that your worth isn’t defined by the world. It’s defined by who you are and what you choose to do. And you are enough!
~3~ Use essential oils! ~ Or whatever it is that calms you down! I’m not super great with all the essential oils, but the ones I have used have helped me tremendously! Before I meet with new people or put myself in a new situation that’s stressful, I just rub a little bit of cedar wood on my feet, and lavender on my wrists! These are just a few of the many oils that help your body to calm down and relax! This is perfect because in new situations my brain tend to be a little bit on overload so it definitely helps to do anything that will keep me calm!