Oh man, this is a subject that I feel is so important! Probably because I need to hear it over and over again! I think a lot of times we forget that being married has so much to do with service. Yes, we want to be happy and taken care of, but if we focus more on serving our spouse, then I promise we will feel better! Ive noticed this in my life SO many times! I’ll go for a while doing really good and focusing on Geoffrey. Serving him and doing all I can to make sure he’s happy. And I’ll be happy too! And then, I get relaxed and stop serving him like I should and then I get frustrated. I end up being the one that’s unhappy. Now, human nature is to want everyone to do everything for us instead of us doing things for others. So, service can sometimes seem so daunting. But, I’m going to share some simple ways that you can serve your spouse! They may not notice very many or any of them, but you will and you will feel better just knowing that you’ve gone out of your way to do something for them.
1 ~ Be patient
2 ~ Don’t ask them to do everything! – my mind goes a mile a minute and I want everything done at once, but my husband likes to do things one at a time, which is totally fine!
3 ~ Text them to let them know you’re thinking of them
4 ~ Thank them – even if it’s for something super small!
5 ~ Tell them I love you and mean it
6 ~ Cook dinner for them
7 ~ Do something for them that they’re normally in charge of – like taking the trash out in our case
8 ~ Ask their opinion on things
9 ~ Be interested in their hobbies/interests – my husband is a mechanical engineer, which means most of the time, I have NO idea what he’s talking about, but actually taking the time to try and understand and be interested is such a great way to serve and let them know you care about them!
10 ~ Make sure they wake up on time – this week is finals for Geoffrey and even though waking them up might seem mean, it really is helpful. I don’t know about you, but when I wake up late, my whole day is thrown off!
11 ~ Buy them a treat!
12 ~ Give them your undivided attention – put your phone away and just spend time with them!
13 ~ Let them have control of the remote – Geoffrey is SO good at always letting me watch what I want, but I really need to let him pick more often!
14 ~ Write love notes to them randomly
15 ~ Make them take a day off! – whatever it be, encourage them to do something fun for them!